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2025.03.31

When I go out
Visibly fem
Visibly queer
I don’t care that you clock me
I don’t do it so you can side-eye and sneer
I don’t do it so you can wonder
what’s in my pants or who I sleep with
I don’t do it to turn your kids gay or trans
I do it for my queer siblings still closeted
I do it for our queer kids who are growing up afraid
in a world hostile to them
I do it so they know that I’m here for them
That I got their back
And there is hope and love and community
Even when the world tells you there isn’t
I’m telling them “you’re safe with me”

And if it bothers you?
Kindly go fuck yourself
And get out of my way

#transdayofvisibility 🏳️‍⚧️

2025, the year I look like ME

2025.01.18

In one of these “invest in yourself” kind of things, back in December I (finally!) booked a makeup class to learn how to do it from a professional.

That class was today. And OH MY GOD.

The gender euphoria is strong with this one! I finally feel like I look like ME. I’m incredibly happy with this and very excited about practicing all the techniques I learned today!

And go visit the wonderful Mari Cornejo’s Instagram, she’s a true gem.

show number 3 was EPIC

2024.12.04

I bought this top from Shein close to six years ago (hey shut up Shein was great for a closeted trans girl trying out things) and until tonight I had never worn it out of the house. And a lot of the compliments I got throughout the evening were about how good it looked on me, which yeah, not disagreeing 😜 💅

But on a seriouser note, another lot of compliments was about my set and I’m so very happy about that. Talking about and sharing my trans experience on stage in a standup comedy setting is a great way for me to feel like I do my part, as small as it is, to bring my community to the light and bring out awareness with laughter and good vibes.

The crowd last night was amazing. All the comedians were brilliant. And the atmosphere was absolutely fucking incredible, full of joy and allyship and love. With everything that’s happening in the world from the US to the UK to France to even Spain now, last night was validating as fuck, not just as a comedian or a transgender woman, but as a human being. And I felt so good today, you guys. So good. After weeks of depression, it’s a breath of fresh air and I needed this, so much.

Thank you AtoMIC Comedy Barcelona for nurturing this safe space for women and LGBTQIA+ comedians in Barcelona ❤️❤️❤️ This AtoMIC baby is very grateful.

Year of firsts

2024.07.20

After a first stand up show, then a first public performance in a big band (albeit a chaotic one) with the alto sax that I hadn’t played in at least a year… here’s me dressed all fem outside the flat, going to Pride and ON A FREAKING FLOAT. A nerve-wracking triple first that went amazingly well. What a day!

This year has definitely seen me smash those comfort zones…